I found out I was pregnant at the end of August. It was a HUGE shock to me- so much so that I took 6 pregnancy tests, thinking maybe because they were cheap ones I bought off Amazon they might be faulty.
But no, they were right!
I told my husband, my message board friends, and my mom and sister immediately. But have been hesitant to tell my grandmother and my mother in law.
Why?
Because I know they would disapprove.
Now, I have to wonder why they care in the first place, how many children we have. My MIL (mother in law) lives in Indiana. My grandmother lives here in town, but, in the 3 years we've lived here, we've been lucky to see her 4 times per year. She just never bothers to come over. And we've attempted to go visit her a few times, but that's a WHOLE other story.
We never ask her for anything, and as it happens, we're on NO state assistance whatsoever. We are fully self sufficient. I don't even get WIC.
I don't complain about money, don't even talk about it. It's nobody's business but ours.
So then why is she SO upset that we're having another baby?
I waited until about 3 weeks before Christmas to tell grandma about the pregnancy. She was here on November 20th for my daughter's birthday party, and I called her probably around the 1st of December. I left her a message because she did not answer her phone. I haven't heard from her since.
Yesterday, she showed up (unannounced, of course) to ask me a few questions.
Question 1) I thought you were going to take care of that after Tommy was born?
Question 2) Are you going to take care of it with this baby?
She actually asked me if I was going to get "fixed" to which I replied, "Get what fixed? I'm not broken."
After I explained to her that the hospital will not perform a tubal after delivery, I was not going to get 'fixed'. There's some confusion as to whether or not they do it after a C-Section, but I've never had a C-Section, and I don't plan to start just so I can get 'fixed'. I've had 4 babies au natural, and will have this 5th one the same way.
We talked about getting my husband a Vasectomy, and that is an option we've both considered, and even had a consultation about. Her concern was that it might not work, or they might cut some nerves causing him to 'not function' anymore.
I simply said 'if it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't.'. To which she replied, 'Yeah, there's other ways to take care of it.' And I said, 'Or we just have another baby.' Which she didn't like.
She left after that (after snapping at my daughter for something that, AGAIN, was none of her business), and I probably won't even bother telling her when the baby is born. I just don't see why I should waste mine and her time.
After I told my husband what had happened, his response was the same as my thoughts- we should have 2 more just to spite her! LOL
Ah well. Life goes on. I'm not stressing about her or her opinion. I love my babies- ALL of them.
So, later today- baking cornbread to go with dinner, and possibly watching an Adam movie :)
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